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Nalah wrote:Hi Tia and welcome

There are a lot of traditions, but I don't know if these are especially German (except a few ones):

-before the wedding: a wedding-eve party, where all guests crush old dishes and the bridal couple has to sweep it up

yeah, we read about it and my fiancée said noooo! it would be ok if WE could crush the plates and the guest would sweep it up we're not sure were we could have such a party ether. I think it would be fun. But doesn't this make yet another big dent in the budget? Please explain how you would go about such a party

-of course: bachelorette party

this is given. My maids of honour is secrety about it all. Can't wait

-something old, something new, something blue and something borrowed and a silver sixpence in the shoe (but I think it's more American)

same here in Norway

-wedding candle during the wedding ceremony

this I haven't heard of. Please explain! Our sermoni is outside on top of castle ruins, I'm not sure if a light will burn. Maybe we could usa a votive instead.


-flower children with the entry in the church

No church wedding, but we do have both flower children and ring bearer.

-thowing of rice after the ceremony (but I think it's very dangerous for birds etc. - I would not do this)

no rice, but bubbles that don't stain

-cutting of a bed sheet (a big sheet, on which a heart is drawn. Then the bride and the groom has to cut this heart with a scissor from each side. It's more funny when the scissor is a bit blunt And the one, who cuts his/her side first is the winner . The groom has to carry his wife through the cut heart after the cutting)

this I like! What is it called in German? I can have my fiancée read up on it.

-saw up of a tree tunk (with a big saw and the wedding couple has to saw it together)

how do we go about this and what meaning does it have? I really like this as well and the original German name for it?


-throwing of bridal bouquet (the one who catches it is the next bride)

We thought about this, but we're not sure. Same goes for the hip band.

-auction of bride shoe

no! Never. I love my shoes

-the wedding couple has to drink together from a wedding cup

are we supposed to do something at the same time, or? When will we do this?

-of course: Wedding dance

of course

-cutting of wedding cake: the one who "prevails" with cutting is the "future boss" in the marriage

not quite sure what yue mean here. Shouldn't we cut it together?

-hijacking of bride

I actually hope this happens

-the groom has to carry his wife across the threshold at home
[b]he will not get away from this one


Hope everything is halfway understandable

monemaus wrote:Hi Tia, I´ll try to answer some of your questions..

-before the wedding - wedding-eve party
To clarify, the plates which will be crushed by the guests, are not your plates. The guests will bring old dishes, lavatories and even toilet bowls (in case you have really nasty guests) with them to crush. Bride and groom have to sweep up the broken dishes. But be careful, no glass should be crushed because this will bring ill luck. So regarding to the dent in the budget, you will „only“ have to pay for food and drinks like every other party. The only thing, people don´t want to have such a wedding-eve party is, to pay 2 times for the guests – 1 x at this evening, and at the wedding day, too.

Is it considered rude to invite everyone to meet up at a pub and tell them that we'll pay for example one or two beers and lite food? I think we'll have a place to have such a party. If they'll let us smash up some plates

-wedding candle during the wedding ceremony
this wedding candle can be made from you or your family or could be bought also. It will be lighted up within the ceremony at the church e.g. The meaning of the candle is to give light to the common live´s journey from the couple.

This is really nice. I have to think about it. We don't know how the weather will be and standing on top of the ruins it wouldn't look good if the light only burned for 5 mins

-cutting of a bed sheet don´t have a specific name in German. We call it „Hochzeitsherz ausschneiden“

Thank you. It will give my fiance something to go after when he'll google it

-saw up of a tree tunk
You will find a prepared tree tunk and have to saw up the tunk together. Bride at the one side of the saw, groom at the other. This is very exhausting, especially when the weather is hot. It´s called „Baumstammsägen“ and the meaning is that the couple will be strong enough together to force the future.

I would love to do this, but I don't think my health would stand it. Or does it have to be any specific size?

-the wedding couple has to drink together from a wedding cup
no, not at the same time. First you are drinking, than your groom. This is a kind of game which can be done within the whole party.

How? Sorry if it's a stupid question, but is this a glass standing in front of us and the guests keep on filling it up, or do we drink on a special cue?

-cutting of wedding cake:
definitaly you have to cut it together! But the one who´s hand will be up, the one will be the „boss“ in the family. For example: While cutting the cake your hand is up and your grooms hand is below your hand, so you will purchase in your relationship.

aha. Thank you But isn't that kind of the same as with the stepping on each other foot right after the sermoni? Or is this just another one? [b]

Hope this helps

It most certainly do.

Julchen80 wrote:Hei Tia, velkommen!

I think that most traditions have already been named.

As for your question regarding drinking at the same time. There is something called "Brautbecher" (bridal cup).

For example this one:

https://www.weddix.de/hochzeitsshop/brautbecher/brautbecher-hochzeit-magdalena.html

There is legend or "fairytale" regarding the Brautbecher.

I have found one in English here, where it is explained:

http://www.german-toasting-glasses.com/bridal_cups/nuernberg_bridal_cup_story.html

Are there any special Norwegian wedding traditions?